How I’m Coping Post-Election

For my followers, I’m still here.  For nearly the entire month of January I’ve been sick with what turned out not to be a cold but the flu.  Given my history of asthma, pneumonia, upper respiratory infections and bronchitis, I’ve followed my doctor’s recommendation to get a flu shot for many years.  Somehow this year I didn’t prioritize and as a result, I was taken down for weeks.  Shame on me.

Pre-election, I made a conscious decision to not use my social media presence to make my personal political leanings known. As the election grew closer, I did occasionally “like” certain posts on Facebook that spoke to my beliefs. What I didn’t do was to seek out those Facebook “friends” whose positions were the opposite of mine and make snarky remarks. In short, I remembered what my mama taught me “if you can’t say something nice, say nothing at all”.  Wise woman.

As months dragged on, several Facebook “friends” took a different approach. Posting non-stop with sometime truly offensive shares in their feeds, I first used the “hide” feature making those posts in effect disappear. In several cases, I stopped following them though not un-friending or blocking them. As my yoga instructor Jules had taught me, “if it disturbs your peace, let it go” and that worked for me.

I have a number of friends whose politics are not the same as mine but I still love and admire them for all their other positive attributes. There seems to be an unspoken understanding that we simply don’t talk about politics, that our friendship in more important than our need to debate.

Post-election the divisiveness continues.  I’ve still been inspired to share a few posts that I mirrored my views.  Sadly, I’ve had a Facebook “friend” who can’t stop themselves from making sarcastic comments on those posts.  This has happened half a dozen times and while I don’t reply, it’s disturbed my peace.  Another life lesson from my mom, “don’t take the bait” has stopped me from engaging with so much as a reply.  To cope and stop this from happening in the future, I’ve blocked this individual earlier this week and immediately felt a sense of peace.

In recent weeks, I’ve adopted what my life-long BFF calls a “news fast” avoiding the  onslaught of daily news that make me sad, stressed or upset.  Again, my way of coping…

I’ve decided to get back to blogging about life, food, cats, travel and positive, humorous things which attracted me to it in the first place.  The kind, unconditional acceptance and support and the new friends of every age, gender, occupation, nationality and sexual orientation have been a constant source of happiness for me as I continue being a citizen of the blogosphere.

Thank you for being a part of my life.

59 Candles, 59 Things – part thirty seven

Forty fifth thing:  As I continue this series on 59 Things that make me happy, I must mention enduring friendships.

I’ve been blessed by long-lasting friendships. One of my two best friends, was my first-ever friend from the age of two. The other, I’ve known half my life (and I’m racing towards 60 in May) who for a time was my roommate. Oh the stories they could tell….

There are more long time friendships that I treasure dearly.  Last night I got together with three ladies I worked with in a position I left 25 years ago. At the credit bureau I added two more dear pals who remain in my life and a couple more amazing girlfriends from my final career stop prior to retirement. Another treasured friend, I’ve known since I was ten and she was married to a family friend. Over the years that age difference was of no consequence and any time spent with her is treasured.

I’d be remiss to leave out my sister and my mom who I consider to be friends and confidantes as well as my family.

To all of the incredible women who honor me with their friendship, love, compassion and unwavering support, I thank you from the bottom of my heart.  Life with you in it is richer given the memories we’ve made and the laughter we’ve shared.

Here’s hoping for many more years….


For more of the “59 Candles, 59 Things” series, go to categories and select “59 Things”.